upgrade trl and accelerate (#3161)

* upgrade trl==0.23.0

* upgrade accelerate patch fix

* add hints when using gradient_checkpointing with DPO

* set gradient-checpointing properly

src/axolotl/core/builders/base.py

@@ -435,7 +435,7 @@ class TrainerBuilderBase(abc.ABC):
             # don't use the HF gradient checkpointing, manually wrap
             training_args_kwargs["gradient_checkpointing"] = False
             training_args_kwargs["activation_offloading"] = True
-        elif self.cfg.gradient_checkpointing:
+        elif self.cfg.gradient_checkpointing is not None:
             training_args_kwargs["gradient_checkpointing"] = (
                 self.cfg.gradient_checkpointing
             )

src/axolotl/utils/schemas/validation.py

@@ -1378,6 +1378,21 @@ class ComplexValidationMixin:
 
         return self
 
+    def hint_gradient_checkpointing_dpo_lora_ddp(self):
+        if (
+            (self.gradient_checkpointing is True or self.gradient_checkpointing is None)
+            and self.capabilities
+            and self.capabilities.get("n_gpu", 1) > 1
+            and self.adapter in ("lora", "qlora")
+            and self.rl == RLType.DPO
+            and not self.fsdp
+            and not self.deepspeed
+        ):
+            LOG.warning(
+                "gradient_checkpointing with DPO + DDP + LoRA is not recommended."
+            )
+        return self
+
 
 class DistributedValidationMixin:
     """validation for distributed training."""