add 12.8.1 cuda to the base matrix (#2426)

* add 12.8.1 cuda to the base matrix

* use nightly

* bump deepspeed and set no binary

* deepspeed binary fixes hopefully

* install deepspeed by itself

* multiline fix

* make sure ninja is installed

* try with reversion of packaging/setuptools/wheel install

* use license instead of license-file

* try rolling back packaging and setuptools versions

* comment out license for validation for now

* make sure packaging version is consistent

* more parity across tests and docker images for packaging/setuptools

setup.py

@@ -128,7 +128,7 @@ setup(
             "flash-attn==2.7.4.post1",
         ],
         "deepspeed": [
-            "deepspeed==0.16.1",
+            "deepspeed==0.16.4",
             "deepspeed-kernels",
         ],
         "mamba-ssm": [